Muslim abuser who 'didn't know' that sex with a girl of 13 was illegal is spared jail
• Adil Rashid admitted travelling to Nottingham and having sex with the girl
• He met the 13-year-old on Facebook and they communicated by texts and phone for two months before they met
• He was educated in a madrassa and 'had little experience of women'
• Said he had been taught 'women are no more worthy than a lollipop that has been dropped on the ground'
• Added he was reluctant to have sex but that he was 'tempted by [the girl]'
By PAUL BENTLEY
25 January 2013
Muslim who raped a 13-year-old girl he groomed on Facebook has been
spared a prison sentence after a judge heard he went to an Islamic
faith school where he was taught that women are worthless.
Rashid, 18, claimed he was not aware that it was illegal for him to
have sex with the girl because his education left him ignorant of
Judge Michael Stokes handed Rashid a suspended sentence, saying:
‘Although chronologically 18, it is quite clear from the reports that
you are very naive and immature when it comes to sexual matters.’
Earlier Nottingham Crown Court heard that such crimes usually result in a four to seven-year prison sentence.
the judge said that because Rashid was ‘passive’ and ‘lacking
assertiveness’, sending him to jail might cause him ‘more damage than
Rashid, from Birmingham, admitted he had sex with the girl, saying he had been ‘tempted by her’ after they met online.
They initially exchanged messages on Facebook before sending texts and chatting on the phone over a two-month period.
They then met up in Nottingham, where Rashid had booked a room at a Premier Inn.
girl told police they stayed at the hotel for two hours and had sex
after Rashid went to the bathroom and emerged wearing a condom.
then returned home and went straight to a mosque to pray. He was
arrested the following week after the girl confessed what had happened
to a school friend, who informed one of her teachers.
He told police he knew the girl was 13 but said he was initially reluctant to have sex before relenting after being seduced.
the court heard how Rashid had ‘little experience of women’ due to his
education at an Islamic school in the UK, which cannot be named for
his arrest, he told a psychologist that he did not know having sex with
a 13-year-old was against the law. The court heard he found it was
illegal only when he was informed by a family member.
other interviews with psychologists, Rashid claimed he had been taught
in his school that ‘women are no more worthy than a lollipop that has
been dropped on the ground’.
Judge Stokes said Rashid ‘must have known it was illegal, unless he was
going round with his eyes shut’, defence lawyer Laban Leake said
reports suggested Rashid had a ‘degree of sexual naivety’.
school he attended, it is not going too far to say, can be described as
a closed community and on this occasion this was perpetuated by his
is not too far to say that he may not have known that having sex with a
13-year-old girl was illegal.’ Judge Stokes sentenced Rashid to nine
months youth custody, suspended for two years, along with a two-year
probation supervision order.
Rashid, the judge said: ‘He’s had an unusual education, certainly in
terms of the sexual education provided. Comparing women to lollipops is
a very curious way of teaching young men about sex.’
But he said that Rashid knew what he was doing was wrong.
was made clear to you at the school you attended that having sexual
relations with a woman before marriage was contrary to the precepts of
Islam,’ he said.
Rashid, the judge said: ‘I accept this was a case where the girl was
quite willing to have sexual activity with you. But the law is there to
protect young girls, even though they are perfectly happy to engage in
Egypt’s women urge MPs not to pass early marriage, sex-after-death laws
Wednesday, 25 April 2012
By ABEER TAYEL
National Council for Women (NCW) has appealed to the Islamist-dominated
parliament not to approve two controversial laws on the minimum age of
marriage and allowing a husband to have sex with his dead wife within
six hours of her death according to a report in an Egyptian newspaper.
appeal came in a message sent by Dr. Mervat al-Talawi, head of the NCW,
to the Egyptian People’s Assembly Speaker, Dr. Saad al-Katatni,
addressing the woes of Egyptian women, especially after the popular
uprising that toppled president Hosni Mubarak in February 2011.
was referring to two laws: one that would legalize the marriage of
girls starting from the age of 14 and the other that permits a husband
to have sex with his dead wife within the six hours following her death.
to Egyptian columnist Amro Abdul Samea in al-Ahram, Talawi’s message
included an appeal to parliament to avoid the controversial
legislations that rid women of their rights of getting education and
employment, under alleged religious interpretations.
tried to underline in her message that marginalizing and undermining
the status of women in future development plans would undoubtedly
negatively affect the country’s human development, simply because women
represent half the population,” Abdul Samea said in his article.
controversy about a husband having sex with his dead wife came about
after a Moroccan cleric spoke about the issue in May 2011.
Abdul Bari said that marriage remains valid even after death adding
that a woman also too had the same right to engage in sex with her dead
years ago, Zamzami incited further controversy in Morocco when he said
it was permissible for pregnant women to drink alcohol.
But it seems his view on partners having sex with their deceased partners has found its way to Egypt one year on.
prominent journalist and TV anchor Jaber al-Qarmouty on Tuesday
referred to Abdul Samea’s article in his daily show on Egyptian ON TV
and criticized the whole notion of “permitting a husband to have sex
with his wife after her death under a so-called ‘Farewell Intercourse’
is very serious. Could the panel that will draft the Egyptian
constitution possibly discuss such issues? Did Abdul Samea see by his
own eyes the text of the message sent by Talawi to Katatni? This is
unbelievable. It is a catastrophe to give the husband such a right! Has
the Islamic trend reached that far? Is there really a draft law in this
regard? Are there people thinking in this manner?”
members of the newly-elected, and majority Islamist parliament, have
been accused of launching attacks against women’s rights in the country.
wish to cancel many, if not most, of the laws that promote women’s
rights, most notably a law that allows a wife to obtain a divorce
without obstructions from her partner. The implementation of the
Islamic right to divorce law, also known as the Khula, ended years of
hardship and legal battles women would have to endure when trying to
obtain a divorce.
law grants men the right to terminate a marriage, but grants women the
opportunity to end an unhappy or abusive marriages without the
obstruction of their partner.
to the implementation of the Khula over a decade ago, it could take 10
to 15 years for a woman to be granted a divorce by the courts.
members of Egyptian parliament, however, accuse these laws of “aiming
to destroy families” and have said it was passed to please the former
first lady of the fallen regime, Suzanne Mubarak, who devoted much of
her attention to the issues of granting the women all her rights.
parliamentary attacks on women’s rights has drawn great criticism from
women’s organizations, who dismissed the calls and accused the MPs of
wishing to destroy the little gains Egyptian women attained after long
years of organized struggle.
Does sexual frustration fuel Islamic violence?
by Omar Sacirbey
Religion News Service
November 19, 2009
(RNS) Did alleged Fort Hood shooter Maj. Nidal Hasan lose control, at least in part, because he was sexually frustrated?
one of the questions being asked in the investigation into the Nov. 5
rampage that left 13 people dead and dozens more injured.
to reports, Hasan visited a nearby strip club in the weeks before the
massacre and was frustrated by his inability to find a pious Muslim
sparked a recurring, but still unresolved, debate on whether strict
Islamic sexual mores in Muslim communities are contributing to a sense
of hopelessness some say drives many young men into religious
fanaticism and violence.
these men are so sexually deprived so much so that the sperm has gone
to their brain, and they implode," wrote Ani Zonneveld, a female Muslim
activist, on a Muslim online discussion forum which had taken up the
are more skeptical about the claim, and say that if there's a
relationship between religious fundamentalism and sexual repression or
frustration, it is not unique to Muslims.
skeptical," said Kecia Ali, a religion professor at Boston University.
People have tried to link Islamic extremism and sexual frustration for
years, she said, but a causal relationship "was a bit of a stretch."
many, however, the most perplexing question is why men who see
themselves as devout Muslims engage in such un-Islamic behavior. Hasan,
39, is reported have visited the Starz strip club at least three times
in weeks leading up to the shooting, spending up to six or seven hours
at a time.
said he was a medic and that he was being deployed soon, but mostly he
wanted to ask us questions," Jennifer Jenner, a stripper who Hasan paid
$50 for a lap dance in the private room, told Foxnews.com. "He was
Atta and several other 9/11 hijackers had also visited strip clubs not
long before the 2001 terrorist attacks. In his will, however, Atta
demanded that women not come to his funeral and not visit his grave,
and that whoever washed his body should wear gloves when washing his
genitals. Scholars stress that among mainstream Muslims in America,
women regularly participate in funerals, and probably don't consider
the minutia that consumed Atta.
his novel "Murder In Amsterdam," based on the murder of Dutch filmmaker
Theo Van Gogh, British journalist Ian Buruma suggests that sexual
frustration played a part in driving Mohammed Bouyeri, the Dutch-born
son of Moroccan immigrants, to murder Van Gogh in broad daylight in
a teenager, Bouyeri smoked dope and chased Dutch women, but in his 20s,
he faced bleak economic prospects, girl troubles, and his sister got a
boyfriend. Bouyeri "felt dishonored, useless, and excluded," Buruma
writes, but says Bouyeri found his source of power in radical Islam.
one of the leading philosophical fathers of radical Islam, Egyptian
Sayyid Qutb, was critical of the U.S. as an exchange student between
1948-50, especially of what he called the "animal-like mixing"
of the sexes, even at church dances.
suicide bombers from Palestine and Iraq are said to be motivated by
Islamic interpretations -- albeit highly disputed -- that 72 virgins
await Muslim martyrs when they arrive in paradise.
frustration that drives Muslim men to violence has at least as much to
do with economic and social factors as it does with sexual troubles,
observers say. High unemployment rates in many parts of the world
complicate job prospects, where a steady income is a prerequisite to
getting a wife, and where pre-marital sex can result in social
ostracizing, jail, and whipping.
"If you can't get a job," Ali said, "you can't get a girlfriend."
however, does not point to a link between sexual frustration and
Islamic extremism, says Marc Sageman, a senior fellow at the Foreign
Policy Research Institute in Philadelphia.
fact, three-fourths of al-Qaida terrorists are married, and two-thirds
of them have children (and many children at that)," he wrote in his
2004 essay, "Common Myths About al-Qaida Terrorism." "This apparent
paradox is explained by the fact that they want many children to pursue
jihad, while they sacrifice themselves for their cause and their
perplexing paradox is why men like Hasan and Atta, who see themselves
as devout Muslims, go to strip clubs and engage in other un-Islamic
behavior. "It's so inconsistent with the portrayals of these guys as
pious Muslims," said Pamela Taylor, co-founder of Muslims for
Progressive Values. "It doesn't make sense."
a cultural double-standard," said Ali. Many Muslim men view both
Western women and Muslim women as mainly sexual objects, but hold
different standards for Western culture that they view as lost to
vanity and promiscuity. "They don't expect their sisters to act like
Zonneveld said she sees a connection between sexual frustration and
violence, she emphasizes it is not unique to Islamic cultures.
say the route to violence is through intolerance, and it doesn't matter
what religion or perspective you hold," she said. "You see that in the
anarchists against capitalism, Jewish settlers against Palestinians,
and of course these so-called Muslims."
from Muslim sex therapist
Cairo-based Heba Kotb tackles
sensitive issues within the framework of Islam.
By Jeffrey Fleishman, Times Staff Writer
July 29, 2007
searching for better sex, but people aren't having the best sex. Sex within
Islam is the best. It covers the man's rights and the woman's rights. Islam is
the ultimate sexuality.'
CAIRO — In the
delicate realm where the Koran meets human desire, Heba Kotb, a Muslim sex
therapist in a ruffled gold head scarf, has strong opinions on vibrators,
foreplay, premature you-know-what and why more men can't seem to locate the
An hour in her clinic, where some women wear black abayas that reveal
only their eyes, is a liberating venture into a culture that has traditionally
relegated talk of sex to a family whisper. Demure she may appear, but Kotb's
voice is strong and unapologetically public. The Koran, she said, forbids sex
outside marriage, but within that union carnal satisfaction is a requisite for
"I deal with pleasure, desire, orgasms, masturbation, sexual frequency and
erection problems," said Kotb, whose TV show, "Big Talk," is popular across the
Arab world. "Neither the Koran nor the Sunna, however, address masturbation. My
advice is that it's OK to masturbate, but only if you need it badly.
Masturbation has become more prevalent here because sex is forbidden outside
In a society in which male clerics issue fatwas, or religious edicts or
opinions, addressing all layers of family life, a feminine voice on something as
intimate as sex has made Kotb a celebrity and a cultural revolutionary.
Some conservative clerics accuse Kotb of catering to sinners and
Western-influenced permissiveness, but, overall, there has been little outcry
about her frankness. Kotb's advice on sex is meticulously framed within the
context of matrimony, which she says is a gift from God.
"Everyone is searching for better sex, but people aren't having the best sex,"
she said. "Sex within Islam is the best. It covers the man's rights and the
woman's rights. Islam is the ultimate sexuality. It's beyond the stereotypes of
Islamic oppression. I'm replacing that template. I'm replacing the stereotypes."
Kotb's interest in the subject arose from conversations with sex offenders while
working on her forensic medicine degree at Cairo University. She later studied
sexology and philosophy at Maimonides University in Florida; her dissertation
was titled Sexuality in Islam. She wrote advice columns for newspapers,
including one called "Behind Closed Doors." In 2006, she started her own
late-night TV talk show on the private Egyptian satellite channel El Mehwar.
"I thought about the core of sexuality and religion," she said. "How many
relationships could I save knowing about this? At first, there was a state of
shock over the TV show. Gradually it was accepted, and today people love it. I
think, outside of the sex act, people have little idea about their own
sexuality. Five years ago, I'd see two or three patients a week. Today, I'm
booked three months ahead."
Kotb has a lively face bordered by a hijab. She wears rings and
bracelets; her cellphone hums incessantly, and she seems comfortable with her
high profile. She blends science and anatomy charts with the Koran and the Sunna,
teachings based on the life of the prophet Muhammad, who, Kotb noted, tended
dutifully to his wives.
Kotb advises her listeners that every sexual encounter outside marriage leaves
an indelible mark, and that the accumulation of those marks can destroy a
relationship and push one further from God. But her larger aim is to help
Muslims overcome sexual ignorance by showing them that scripture from centuries
ago is relevant to today's preferences and inhibitions.
"It's hard for people to confess that they have no idea about sex, especially
men — they think they're Valentinos," Kotb said, referring to those unschooled
in the intricacies of the multiple orgasm. "Sometimes men believe they know
everything, and some are, in fact, lying."
To add religious legitimacy to her show, Kotb invites young preachers to answer
questions from viewers. Many are part of a movement that emerged in the 1990s
that offers a less conventional interpretation of Islamic theology. On one
program, Kotb and Sheik Khaled Abdullah discussed the misconception that sex is
forbidden during the holy month of Ramadan.
"There is no correlation between how faithful you are to God and how much you
avoid having sex in Ramadan," Kotb said.
Abdullah added: "Whenever you feel you need [to have sex] with your wife or
whenever your wife feels the same according to God's rule, you can exercise this
right and you will be rewarded for that … as long as you do it between sunset
and dawn prayers."
Economics is also a factor in a nation where widespread poverty delays or
prevents many couples from marrying. This, along with the increasing Western
influence, most notably from risque music videos on satellite TV, is nudging
more Egyptians into sex outside marriage.
"The evil things always seem more interesting to us than the good things," Kotb
said. "Some people use pornography and sex toys. The problem is they could get
pleasure from these toys and drop their partner. But not many Egyptians use
them. Really, not many Egyptians know about them."
The prospect of vibrators and lubricants can seem surreal in a society in which
a recent government report found that at least 50% of girls between ages 10 and
18 have undergone genital excision, a procedure that some refer to as genital
circumcision, in which part or all of the clitoris is removed. Other estimates
suggest that 97% of Egyptian women between 15 and 49 have undergone genital
excision. The practice, believed to prevent promiscuity by reducing a woman's
sex drive, was banned in June by Egyptian health officials after the death of a
12-year-old girl during the procedure.
"I'm totally against female circumcision. There is no religious or scientific
reason for it," Kotb said. "But it does not affect sexuality. A woman keeps her
nerve endings. I'm opposed to circumcision because it's part of the human body
and it's not the right of anyone to cut your body."
The Dilemma of 'Virginity' Restoration
Sunday, Jul. 13, 2008
By BRUCE CRUMLEY/PARIS
lost, virginity can never be replaced — but modern medicine now offers
women a near-perfect physical simulation of their lost innocence.
Hymenoplasty, the surgical reconstruction of the hymen broken during a
women's first experience of intercourse, or, increasingly, during
demanding exercise or as a result of a collision or fall by women
who've never had sex, has prompted a growing number of young betrothed
women in France to make a last-ditch attempt to avoid the humiliation,
repudiation, and possibly violence that could result from husbands and
families discovering from blood-free bridal sheets that their wedding
night had not been their first sexual experience.
has generated renewed attention here in the wake of a court ruling last
month in the northern city of Lille, which annulled a marriage on the
basis of a husband's complaint that his wife had falsely promised that
she was a virgin — a confession he obtained after furiously waving the
new couple's spotless bedclothes before still-celebrating wedding
guests. Though the decision made no mention of religion, the fact that
the couple were Muslim sparked complaints that France's strictly
secular state is being undermined by traditional Arab cultural
strictures. The court ruling also infuriated feminists, who saw its
acceptance of prior sexual experience as grounds for annulment as
tantamount to treating marriage as the equivalent of a commercial
transaction in which the buyer had discovered a hidden flaw in his
purchase. Many Muslim leaders were also outraged, insisting that Islam
does not demand virginity as a precondition for marriage, and claimed
that the ruling belied the judge's archaic misunderstanding of the
faith and its tenets.
an appeal by France's Justice Ministry resulted in the Lille ruling
being overturned, the storm it provoked has focused media attention on
young Muslim women who turn to hymenoplasty to avoid the fate of the
repudiated Lille bride. News reports have featured traumatized patients
discussing the reaction they'd have faced on their wedding night or
following virginity examinations frequently required prior to
traditional marriages. Some admit they've paid as much as $5,250 to
have their hymens reconstituted in private French clinics; others go to
cities in Tunisia, Algeria, or Morocco, where the procedure is even
more common, and costs as little as $300. Though the number of Muslim
women in the United Kingdom, Germany, Belgium, and France undergoing
the procedure is unknown, there's a consensus among doctors that
hymenoplasty is increasingly common. Ironically, as some commentators
note, the increase in the procedure reflects the growing emancipation
of women from tradition-rooted communities, but also the ongoing male
oppression signified by the obsession with female virginity.
Muslim women are increasingly defying the restrictions and repression
men try to enforce, and leading full, modern lives — including
sexually," says Dounia Bouzar, whose recent book Allah, My Boss, and Me
explores Islam in the French workplace. "The one time they feel obliged
to make a concession to outdated attitudes is with the marital
requirement of virginity — a purely macho tradition that has no basis
in Islam, and is certainly nothing courts should be respecting. This
surgery is unfortunate, though it is a way for women who have insisted
on living their own lives to avoid punishment under a backward custom."
then, there's plenty of anguish and surrender involved. Doctor Stephane
Saint-Leger, head of the Children and Women's Ward at the Robert
Ballanger Hospital in the ethnically diverse Paris suburb of
Aulnay-sous-Bois, agrees the social and sexual differences between
young Muslim and non-Muslim women in France are shrinking — including a
trend of marrying later in life. That trend has generally reduced the
likelihood of women of any faith marrying as virgins. But Saint-Leger
says the pressure and intimidation evoked by the Muslim women who come
to him for help as their traditional weddings loom frequently threaten
their physical and psychological well-being. For that reason, he says,
he often agrees to perform hymenoplasties, even though it's the kind of
indirectly coerced act he considers ethically objectionable.
represent young Muslim women surrendering to unnecessary medical
intervention due to unacceptable pressure," Saint-Leger says. "With
this, its pressure from the traditional people. But elsewhere, women
also surrender to unnecessary medical intervention to change their
breasts, noses, lips, or entire face due to unacceptable pressure of
the beautiful people."
the overturning of the Lille verdict removes the risk non-virgin Muslim
brides could find themselves dragged to court on fraud charges by
infuriated husbands, the cultural pressures some face remain
sufficiently great that many will continue turning to hymenoplasty to
restore the semblance of chastity. Many times, however, the ruse may
all be for naught: Saint-Leger notes that 30% to 40% of both original
and reconstructed hymens fail to produce the virginity — confirming
bleeding when ruptured by penetration, anyway.
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